Database connection refused proxy versus origin split response

When this happens

Use this when a cdn, load balancer, reverse proxy, or waf sits in front of the service. Do not stop at the screen message; validate whether the edge/proxy or the origin server creates the failure first.

Symptom checklist

• connection refused appears repeatedly in the Database UI or logs.
• slow query, locks, pool, index, charset differs between successful and failed requests.
• The issue appears only after separating SQL error from application transaction behavior.
• It often follows deploys, permission changes, configuration edits, or data refreshes.

Likely causes

• connection refused specifically changes the investigation surface for Database: verify the exact failing object, route, user, and timestamp before applying the broader pattern.
• The client can resolve the host but cannot complete connection or response transfer.
• Firewall, security group, VPN, or proxy rules differ by source network.
• The service is listening on a different interface or port than the route expects.
• Large packets or long-running responses fail only on specific paths.
• Retries hide the original refusal, reset, or timeout point.
• For the proxy versus origin split case, the first useful clue is whether the edge/proxy or the origin server creates the failure.

First 1-minute checks

1. Write down the first failure time, latest change, affected user, path, and object ID.
2. Compare slow query, locks, pool, index, charset for success and failure in the same window.
3. Test the hypothesis: network failure caused by blocked port, refused listener, packet loss, VPN/proxy path, MTU, VPC rule, or long-running request.
4. Classify this as proxy versus origin split: whether the edge/proxy or the origin server creates the failure.
5. Capture current values before changing configuration.

First evidence

Treat connection refused as a proxy versus origin split case. First collect evidence for whether the edge/proxy or the origin server creates the failure.

Output examples

Normal output

Direct origin and routed proxy return equivalent status and headers.

Failing output

Origin succeeds but proxy fails, or proxy succeeds while direct origin exposes the real backend error.

Output-to-action branches

• A CDN, load balancer, reverse proxy, or WAF sits in front of the service.
  Test direct origin and routed traffic separately, then change only the layer that differs.
• The working and failing outputs differ.
  Act on the differing layer first: For connection refused, apply the fix only after reproducing the same condition and saving the before/after evidence for this exact code.
• Command output is normal but users still fail.
  Separate browser cache, cookies, permissions, and network location before declaring it fixed.

Do not do this

• Do not assume the CDN error code is the application root cause.
• Do not change multiple layers before identifying the failing layer.
• Do not delete production data, grant broad permissions, or disable security controls as a first response.

Evidence quality

Auto-generated operator draft: includes issue-specific causes, commands, output branches, and unsafe-action warnings. Official-source links and real incident validation are queued for enrichment.

Commands to run first

grep -R "connection refused" ./logs

SHOW PROCESSLIST;

SHOW ENGINE INNODB STATUS\G

EXPLAIN SELECT ...

grep -R "connection refused" ./logs

nc -vz example.com 443

curl --connect-timeout 5 -Iv https://example.com

traceroute example.com || tracert example.com

mtr -rw example.com

curl -Iv https://example.com --resolve example.com:443:ORIGIN_IP

Fix order

1. Record the full connection refused message, failing URL, user, object ID, and latest change.
2. Collect issue-specific evidence for network failure caused by blocked port, refused listener, packet loss, VPN/proxy path, MTU, VPC rule, or long-running request.
3. Compare the failing case with a successful case before editing settings.
4. If this is the proxy versus origin split branch, Test direct origin and routed traffic separately, then change only the layer that differs.
5. Re-check with the same command and URL, then record the normal output.

Actions by cause

• For connection refused, apply the fix only after reproducing the same condition and saving the before/after evidence for this exact code.
• Test DNS, TCP connection, TLS, and HTTP separately.
• Compare office/VPN and external network results.
• Open only the required port and source range.
• Move long work out of synchronous requests.
• Save traceroute and direct connection output beside the incident.
• For the proxy versus origin split branch, Test direct origin and routed traffic separately, then change only the layer that differs.

Evidence links

• MySQL error reference official
• PostgreSQL documentation official

Verification metadata

• operator-draft
• official-reference-linked
• 2026-07-23

Update queue

• Review cadence
  weekly-source-review
• Next enrichment
  Add one official-source check and one real output example for Database connection refused.

Environment-specific checks

• Shared hosting, proxies, VPNs, or CDN layers can change SQL error from application transaction behavior results.
• Do not trust only the Database UI; compare command output.
• Japanese hosting panels may show completion before DNS or SSL fully propagates.
• Test from both office and external networks.

Prevent it next time

• Store normal examples for slow query, locks, pool, index, charset.
• Add indexing, pool tuning, transaction scope, charset alignment to the release checklist.
• Keep recurring errors in the same note format.
• Split alerts by error rate, latency, certificates, disk, and permission changes.

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